R.I.P.

Everyone stop what you are doing right now and go hug your father, your mother, your sibling, your friend, or your lover. Stop and go share this moment with someone you treasure. Life is too short. Life is too short to be waisted holding grudges, creating enemies, spreading hatred, and creating jealousy. Remember the little things that make you happy. Always be thankful and don’t let regrets haunt you…
This post is dedicated to the former FVHS student Sean Severson who died earlier today. Please rest in peace Sean. Your life was unfairly taken away from you way too soon. You were only 15. Nothing can describe the pain your family and you must have gone through and are still experiencing. You are in a better place now and prayers will be sent to you and your family. R.i.P Sean Severson.
*This following Monday, the 24th, will be dedicated to Sean. Anyone who would like to do so in memory of Sean can wear black.

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College: The Next Step in Life

Here is a dramatic picture of the UCSD Geisel Library.

During March, us seniors are eagerly anticipating our decisions to the colleges we applied to. Accepted? Yay! Rejected? Life sucks.

But come May 1st, when we have to submit our SIR (Statement of Intent to Register), you may get a feeling of awesomeness but also a tinge of sadness. The feeling of awesomeness comes from going to a college that you’ve worked hard for all four years of high school. You’ve put in work throughout high school, and you’ve finally cashed in on it for college. You deserve it. You are the one the college wanted because of your awesomeness and your skills.

And if I’m being honest, sometimes when I’m bored or whatever, I like to read my acceptances letters/ emails again and then I get a self-esteem boost. It’s pretty awesome and efficient.

But there’s also a tinge of sadness associated with going to college. It’s the next step of life. You’re leaving the nest (unless you’re commuting to school… But in both cases, you are still growing up and going forward with life.) and not to be overly dramatic, but your life won’t be the same as it is. Your high school friendships may wither and you may not be as close to your teachers and classmates anymore. You’re going to have to learn to live by yourself in the “real world”. But you know what? You’ll make new friends at college, and new connections. And plus, you can always reconnect with your high school friends via Skype, Snapchat, Facebook, etc. During college, we’ll also mature and become more independent. College opens the door for you in so many ways. There are so many opportunities available for you and so many resources for you to take advantage of!

I’m pretty excited for college and can’t wait for it to start!

(That is, after I fully enjoy the beautiful season of summer.)

This Is The Time

best friends
When I first started out my senior year in high school earlier this year, the realization that I am graduating and leaving high school for good did not hit me at all. Recently, I’ve suddenly realized that the time to part ways is almost here.
My school has been hosting a bunch of events and me and my friends have been trying to attend ALL OF THEM. Why? We constantly say that since it’s our senior in high school, we should go to every event in order to fully enjoy our last year in the school. More importantly however, it’s also our last year together.
My best friends have gotten many college acceptances and I am very proud of them. To be honest though I also become a little sad each time they tell me they got accepted into another school. You might be thinking, “OMG THAT’S SO MESSED UP WHAT KIND OF A FRIEND ARE YOU?” PLEASE CALM YOURSELF. I become a little sad because all the schools they apply to are so far away from where I want to go to school…
Some may say that I am being a little “clingy” but I don’t care. They are my best friends in the whole world and I really can’t accept the fact that in less than two months we will barely ever see each other. We will all go our separate ways and pursue our own goals. The truth really does hurt.
So this is the time to make the best out of everything that is left. This is the time to go to school events and hang out with each other and savor every moment we have until we all go our separate ways. This is the time.

The Roller Coaster of the College Process

Recently in class, we were watching the movie “Three O Clock High”.

Here is a brief summary of what happens during the movie from IMDb:

A high school nerd, Jerry Mitchell (Siemaszko) is assigned to write a piece for the school paper about new boy Buddy Revell (Tyson), who is rumored to be a psychopathic nutcase. When Jerry accidentally touches Buddy, he says that they must fight in the parking lot at 3pm. Jerry will just about do anything to avoid the confrontation.

Throughout the movie, there are dramatic scenes and the suspense keeps building until the fight, where something unexpected happens– just like a roller coaster!

Jerry has various tactics done in an effort to avoid the fight. For example, he pays an upperclassmen to beat up Buddy for him. The upperclassmen agrees but when he confronts Buddy about the situation, Buddy easily beats him up, leaving him with a bloodied face, as well as leaving the library in a terrible mess.  Jerry also tries to drive away from school but his car fails to work, because Buddy cut the wires. Ultimately, the only way to get over the emotions from anticipating the fight is to just endure and get it over with.

Throughout the film, my emotions were all over the place. And this reminded me about the college process (Sorry! Yet another post about college.) and roller coasters! Applications generally start in the summer/fall seasons and wrap up by late fall. Then after you press the ‘Submit’ button, it’s just a waiting game. For months.

Most college decisions come out in March or April and as these months began approaching, my emotions were at an all-time high. I became stressed and frustrated. I checked my portals frequently– every time I was on the computer (which, trust me, is often). I hate not knowing and I hate suspense. In fact, after the first day of watching ‘Three O Clock High” (We spent two days watching it and still have not finished it yet in class!), I googled the movie online and found out what happens. I actually do this a lot– googling what happens in a movie– because I hate the suspense. I don’t mind that I know the results and it doesn’t hamper my enjoyment of the movie too much anyway.

Now if only I could google if I’ve been accepted or rejected to a college….

It would allow me to either celebrate or eat my emotions out and let me move on with my life.

It’s March and That Means College Decisions!

It is finally March, the month where high school seniors are both anxious and excited for. Not only do you need to brace yourself for college decisions, but you’ll probably have to brace yourself for the constant “Did you get accepted?” question that many of your peers and relatives will ask you. Yay!

Happiness and College Decisions

“Keep in mind how this will tie in with your college decisions coming next month.” And with that, our class watched this video entitled “The Surprising Science of Happiness”  by Dan Gilbert.

Dan Gilbert talks about happiness, his research, and his results. I found it really interesting that the happiness levels one year after someone has won the lottery or became a paraplegic were the same.

How can that be?! Is that a mistake? No, it’s not. People in both cases  adjust to their situations. Dan Gilbert talks about the “Impact Bias“, which is the tendency to overestimate the hedonic impact of future events. Basically, we get over it.

I enjoyed watching the Ted Talk, especially after realizing how useful it will be for me in the upcoming weeks. College decisions are approaching in March and although I have colleges that I would love to be accepted to, the reality is that regardless of where I go, I can still be happy. My happiness is not dependent on what college I end up going to. Just because I get rejected to one college (or more…) does not mean my success at life is dampened or lowered. Ultimately, it is what I do during college (any college!) that truly matters.

Rejection

photo taken from google and edited by me.

photo taken from google and edited by me.

It hurts. A lot. I have never truly experienced rejection. Actually, I don’t think I even knew what rejection was until now. Literally a couple of minutes ago I experienced my first rejection from something: a rejection letter from one of the universities I applied too. I was leisurely checking my emails and saw that I had received an email from the university. I opened the email, read it, and instantly a feeling of disappointment and utter sadness flowed through me. I was disappointed in myself and I even became a little angry at the university. “How can they not accept me? Why?!”
Then I began to think about my parents. “How am I supposed to tell them that I was rejected from a school…”
A sat by myself in my room for a while staring at the rejection email. I tried thinking of positive thoughts to brighten up my mood. (I was studying for a test and I needed to cheer up to resume my studying too.)
Finally I realized something.
So what? Yeah…I was rejected from a school. Did anything else happen? I’m sure the sky did not fall down and that I am still going to end up with a stable job in the future and have a some-what successful career. I may be disappointed now but I am sure that a couple of months from now I am not even going to care about the rejection.
Rejection does not equal shame. There is no reason for me to feel disappointed in myself or ashamed of not being accepted to a school. I myself know that I am capable of many things and that a rejection letter does not mean that I am incapable or “not as good as other people”.
Rejection hurts…but it is a good experience. It is a taste of life.
I recently watched a video in class about happiness and how one finds happiness. Here is a hint of where happiness comes from… It does not come from simply being admitted to a certain school. Happiness is everywhere, it can even be found in a rejection email. This rejection made me cherish my acceptance to another school even more and it made me thankful for having friends and family members who can comfort me during my times of despair.